Most people tend to think of spring cleaning in terms of washing windows, cleaning out closets, and decluttering. While all of those things come to my mind as well I like extending the "cleaning" into my social media and contacts list on my phone. Over the last month I've deleted everyone out of my phone that I wouldn't answer if they called, haven't contacted me in recent memory, or those names I didn't even recognize. The phone cleansing motivated me to do the same with my facebook deleting those who I don't even know and those whose walls I can't write on. The way I see it is that if you don't want people writing on your wall to wish you a Happy Birthday then I no longer wish to give you an outlet into my life.
A few years ago as I entered the working world I remember telling a close friend that I had enough friends. I didn't mean it in the sense that there's a limit on how many people I felt I needed and that I had met my quota. I meant it as I'm done being walked on. I'm not making excuses for those who treat me or those around me poorly anymore. One of the most valuable lessons I learned in college (much thanks to Caroline) is not to sacrifice myself making everyone else happy. I learned how to stand up for myself and to stand up to those undeserving of my friendship. Everyone that we encounter in life isn't there to be our best friend. I believe it's those who act least like a friend that often end up teaching us how to be a better friend. When I look back on these past few years I'm blessed to have developed close friendships with a few people but I've also been wise enough to let people go that have used me for their own selfish gain.
If you haven't done any "social spring cleaning" I highly recommend it. It's quite liberating!